Don't Do It For Others. Do It For Yourself.

I am finally getting around to blogging about something I've been thinking about blogging about for a long time. It all started when I heard a song on the radio in the car, where the woman sang, "I'm trying real hard to become that girl I know you want me to be" - and it really pissed me off, because it was the kind of song young girls would listen to, young girls that are easily influenced by pop stars that sing like this. As if wanting them to believe that, if you're not good enough for them, change and become good enough for them.

This is just wrong.

If they think you're not good enough for them, in reality they are not good enough for you. You should never change to fit in with others if that means letting go of the person you are. The only time it's ok to change, is if you want it yourself.

Take myself for instance. 8th grade here means middle school, first year there. First day there, I didn't know that this was when we were supposed to wear makeup. They asked me why I didn't wear makeup. In the beginning, I wanted to wear makeup because everybody else wore it. Then, in 9th and some of 10th grade, I wore makeup because I thought I had to, because I thought I was ugly. I wasn't bad though; I've never walked around with an orange face. Thank God for that. In 11th grade I wore makeup because it was part of my "style" (to that degree I had any). Then it had become a habit. I can't imagine not wearing makeup anymore. I wear makeup every day. I'm in the 13th grade now, and I wear makeup to feel good about myself. When I look good, I feel good. I don't feel good wearing sweats and a baggy t-shirt, no makeup and messy hair. I feel good when I feel like I look good. So everybody, don't wear makeup 'cause you think you have to or 'cause you think you're ugly - I assure you, you're not; wear makeup because you feel better when you do!

Another example: guys that go to the gym so girls can see them work out. Or even worse, turn to drugs to look better to get girls interested. Now that's just stupid. Guys and girls: don't work out because you think it will get you somewhere with the opposite (or same) sex. Work out because you feel better when you do.

I could probably go on and on to the moon and back with more examples here.

- Don't have sex because everyone else is doing it or because someone is pushing you to, have sex because  you want to.
- Don't choose your music based on what your friends listen to or what's played on MTV, listen to the music you like.
- Don't go to college and study medicine because people are telling you to or because you'll make good money, go to med school because you want to save people's lives.

Y'all get the picture, right?

Don't do it for others. Do it for yourself.

♥ The Norwegian Teenager

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